Two years ago I was invited by the Eating Disorders Coalition to participate in the Spring 2011 Congressional Briefing. I put on a fancy suit and gave a speech on Capitol Hill about my experiences with anorexia and how drastic action is needed to save lives from eating disorders.
“When I should have been making friends, focusing on school work, and growing into the person I was going to become, I instead lost two years of my life to anorexia, two years of my life that I can’t ever get back. My senior year in high school, I had a falling out with some close friends, and fell into a deep depression. I lost my appetite, and couldn’t sleep. I didn’t know what was happening – everything occurred so quickly. Though I had visibly lost weight, it was a few months after my problems began that I ever bothered weighing myself. Co-workers who didn’t know me well would compliment me on the weight I’d lost. My friends could tell something was wrong, they just didn’t know how to approach it. Not knowing what was wrong myself, when they’d ask if I was OK I would insist that I was fine (a word that a good friend of mine refers to as ‘the real F-word’). Eventually, someone at work asked me how much weight I had lost. The thought hadn’t crossed my mind, and out of sheer curiosity I went home and weighed myself, and my bitter relationship with numbers began.”
You can access the full speech transcript here.
Striving for Perfection: Body Image in Males
Got to participate in a panel discussion on body image in males for The Stream, a program which airs on Al Jazeera English. Really stoked to have been a part of it, especially because of the other panelists. Alan Aragon, a nutrition and body building expert, had a lot of unique things to talk about that were new to me.
Here’s a clip from my interview last month with Huffington Post Live about eating disorders in men. You can watch the full segment here.
I wanted to let you know that I’ve been invited to be on a panel discussing eating disorders in men on Huffington Post Live. Thought I’d share since eating disorders are what led me to GSEX in the first place. My understanding is that my friend, author Carrie Arnold, and the founder of UK charity group Men Get Eating Disorders, Too, Sam Thomas, will also be taking part.
I’m really excited that HP is doing this and to be a part of it, since it’s currently Eating Disorder Awareness Week!I posted the full interview on my blog, which you can see here:
http://arenomore.wordpress.com/2013/03/01/anorexia-in-men-on-the-rise-huffington-post-live-interview/
Thanks,
Matt
Matthew Wetsel
Research Specialist
Department of Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation
Neuropsychology
Virginia Commonwealth University[Here’s the facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TilEDsAreNoMore]
Small update, the other (awesome) people I mentioned ended up not being able to participate. But the other panelists had lots of great stuff to say, so you should go listen to them too!
My bias towards the category of sex stems first from the fact that it stands out as unique due to the way that the “pronoun problem” interferes with eating disorders affecting a male population. For example, even if a clinician develops a workbook or program which might be better suited to teenagers than someone in their fifties, if they are writing to an intended female audience or discussing body image as a problem facing women, then at least their pronoun use will be consistent. There is, of course, nothing wrong with writing to an intended audience, and there is undeniable value in acknowledging the unique ways that one’s position in society based on sex and/or gender identity may play a role in a negative body image or an eating disorder.
The problem begins when the focus upon the statistical majority (women) is such that the already marginalized male voice is practically silenced and erased from the conversation. The first thirty results from a quick search for the topic “eating disorders” in the books section of Amazon.com in December 2012 reveals the following: out of thirty books, only five were authored or co-authored by men. If we exclude more academic writings such as clinical handbooks or guides tailored to professionals and focus purely on books intended for a general consumer audience (such as parental guides, self-help books, memoirs) that number drops to three out of thirty, or ten percent – which is, coincidentally, the same estimated percentage of male anorexics. While the sex of the author(s) is not deterministic of the content or focus of the writing, the more noteworthy finding is that out of the first thirty results, fourteen out of thirty books (essentially half) either specifically had words like ‘woman’ or ‘girls’ in the title or, despite a gender-neutral title, featured a female on the cover. The latter is especially concerning due to the fact that titles and descriptions of these books sound as though they written in a gender-inclusive or gender-neutral fashion, but then through their cover art or imagery implied that they were actually written for or about women.
…As a male-bodied individual, much of my recovery from anorexia required me to squeeze into a recovery culture which had been tailored and designed for women. To create space and dialogue which is gender-inclusive requires an investigation into the reasons that negative body image and eating disorders have historically been associated with women or regarded as a “women’s problem.” The word choice here is deliberate. I have on occasion found myself employing the phrase “gender neutral,” but as I stated previously, I believe there is value in the unique experience of how one’s sex or gender may play a role in their recovery. Gender inclusivity is preferable because it is also a fluid phrase which does not limit itself to an idea such as “a dialogue which includes men” or is otherwise rooted in a binary understanding of sex or gender; rather, it could accommodate an infinite number of genders.
“If you talked to your friends the way you talk to your body, you’d have no friends left”- Marcia Hutchinson.
New post about religion and recovery. What’s a nonbeliever to do when the G-word is getting dropped left and right?
From the link: “I had never been comfortable with the personified notion of God. Just typing the word God I feel conflicted. As I write this, I debate if I should put it in quotes or make the ‘g’ lowercase. And back then, when the word ‘God’ was invoked in meetings or by friends, I would feel myself tune out because it’s something I just couldn’t relate to.”
Hell yes. Still think fitspo is harmless? All that crap is promoting a very narrow body type which many people couldn’t hope to achieve through any amount of exercise or dieting. But HEALTH - we’re all capable of being healthy and happy.
Excerpt:
What’s metabolically healthy mean?
Your metabolic health is determined by several factors: High blood pressure, high triglycerides, low HDL - or good - cholesterol and high fasting glucose levels. For this study, a participant was considered metabolically healthy if they displayed zero or only one of the above symptoms.
Ortega and his colleagues use several terms to describe the study participants who were obese but metabolically healthy. They call it “uncomplicated obesity” or “metabolically benign obesity.” Basically that means the obese individuals saw few negative health effects of their extra weight.
The results
The researchers found that the metabolically healthy but obese participants had a 38% lower risk of dying than their metabolically unhealthy peers. There was also no risk difference between the metabolically healthy obese and the metabolically healthy normal weight participants.
“Our study, together with previous literature, strongly suggest that a better cardiorespiratory fitness will make you healthier regardless of your weight status,” Ortega told CNN.”
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-a clear picture of the tattoo
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Aiming to publish Monday. Please reblog/signal boost!
If anyone is curious what I’ve been up to this summer - a lot! I just finished taking a class about Women & Politics, and we had to write a research paper on policy. Naturally, I chose eating disorders!
It’s a long article, but still provides a concise history on mental health coverage, health reform laws, and why/how treatment for eating disorders is habitually denied by insurance companies. THIS is the reason I do lobby work, and it’s something you (yes, any one of you!) can help work to change.